Chapter 1 – Relationships
Josephine, my muse, inspires me to be a better person. Some days, though, being a better person is just plain HARD. Earlier this week, I confess I fell quite short of my goal. I was missing my husband and feeling insecure that he’s out of town visiting his kids. Instead of telling him that, I managed to pick a fight in the few precious moments we actually had to talk on the phone. Not surprisingly, he didn’t want to spend too much time talking with me that night, and I ended up feeling miserable.
People matter. Relationships with others are the most important things we have (outside of our health, our well-being, and a pair of Manolo Blahniks.)
Operating from a place of insecurity often prompts us to say and do things contrary to our purpose. Sometimes, our actions even create the very scenario we most fear.
Low moods cause anxious thoughts to snowball. Thoughts are just thoughts, but if you’re in a low mood it’s easy to get sucked into negativity. Recognizing that you’re in a low mood will help you to see the thoughts for what they are….just thoughts.
Actually, the above three “lessons” encapsulate fairly well how we run into trouble in our relationships with others, and vice-versa. I wish I could claim the wisdom as my own, but I can’t. I’m on my second read-through of the excellent book The Relationship Handbook – A Simple Guide to Satisfying Relationships. At only 154 pages, I could almost read it through once a day (and probably should.)